The purpose of this, isn’t to put you off your wedding day. Rather it is to give you the benefit of other bride’s regrets so you can learn from them – and not make the same mistakes.
I hope you have watched the video which explains the regrets and how you can avoid making the same mistakes others have.
The important ones for me are
Don’t allow other people to hijack the wedding
By this, I mean have other people tell you how you should have your wedding. Brides have said that they let other people chose things are change things because at the time of the wedding they didn’t think it was a big thing. But looking back over time, the day wasn’t how they wanted it to be. This can be anything from colour of dresses, flowers, choice of DJ right up to choice of venue and style of food.
Traditional Wedding v Non-Traditional
If you don’t want a traditional wedding, there is nothing that says you have to have one. In this day and age, you can get married pretty much anywhere, or if you can’t, you can get married in a registry office and then have a ceremony where you want.
Don’t be afraid to break the rules. You want pizza and donuts? Have them. If that’s who you as a couple are, then go for it. When I got married, we played rounders and croquet on the lawn of a hotel, had a picnic by the lake and had strawberries and cream instead of a cake.
Decide whether you are going to ask your guests not to take photos through some, or all, of the ceremony. If you have a photographer lining you up for a photo of you walking down the isle, and then Auntie Mavis steps into the aisle with an ipad to catch the moment, the official photograph might be you and your husband/wife in the background with Auntie Mavis and her giant ipad in the foreground. It is worth discussing this with your photographer who will be able to offer you advice, and maybe even suggest some wording for your guests.
Drunk at your Wedding
Be careful of how much you drink. There have been many brides who have said they got hammered on their big day and don’t remember much. Have a few glasses of champagne, or whatever your tipple is, but make sure to drink water too (especially on a hot day) and limit yourself to only a few glasses. You don’t want your memory of your wedding experience to be the hangover the next day, and having friends and family fill you in on the happenings!
You don’t want to look back on your wedding day with resentment and regret. Plan for no regrets.
If you’d like help with your wedding, and would like to see if I am available on your big day, then please get in touch.